Ten Things Jamaican men can get away with that Women Can’t

1. A Jamaican man can have as many ‘outside’ children as he likes and his wife is expected to forgive him and continue the relationship.
This is a big issue since if a woman within a relationship gets pregnant for an ‘outside’ man, the relationship is over. Very few Jamaican men will stay with a woman “who annodda” man impregnated. Men who do so are considered fools and lose respect from their male peers. People might say women who stay in these relationships have a choice to leave but in reality some do not. Before you condemn these women, be mindful of the facts, never react without knowledge of their situations. 

2. A man can sleep with as many women as he likes and still be considered a very eligible partner while if a woman has been around the “block” a couple times, she is no longer ‘marriage material’.

This might only be a perception for women with less virtuous reputations and a history of promiscuity do end up with a good partners. What is trash to one man is gold to another. It is unfair that women are not allowed by social sanctioning to play the field as much as men without any form of reproach. A woman cannot do what a man does and still be a lady.

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3. A Jamaican man is not expected to wash underwear. As a matter of fact, a lot of men within the lower economical class stress the notion of not having their rags in the same basin as a woman’s panties. While women will wash a man’s undergarments. Some men will not even put panties on the line or take them off. To wash female underwear is considered emasculating while female’s washing a man’s brief is seen as traditional. 

4. A man can stay out all night and all day if he likes but if a woman decides to live this “pon the road” lifestyle, men complain. It was only recently a female acquaintance explained that her man will go to work, come home and leave again to chill with his friends. She said that she decided to give him a piece of his own medicine by stepping in and out as she liked and spending less time at home. She said he claimed that she was not living a “good gyal lifestyle” and was becoming a “road terrorist”.  He found it unpleasant the idea that a woman could love the road as much as him and he might not be alone in this perception. 

5. Men are not chastised as much when they abandon children but women are considered lower than the bottom when they leave their children. It is widely assumed that women have a more intense bond with children due to pregnancy and only a heartless woman could leave her child. Men can pass their children on the streets without as much as a glance but a mother is suppose to be committed to her children. Men can spend less time with their offspring, refuse to attend school meetings, have zero contact and it is accepted with little to no reprimand. 

6. When a man remarries he can bring his new wife to the house he shared with his previous partner. Women especially if the house was built by their first partner are not expected to bring another man into the home. She can live there with the children as long as she does not bring any man there. A woman will help a man build a house and he will throw her out and bring in another woman while if a man  builds a house with a woman and the relationship goes sour, he will insist that “no man nah live a him yard

7. When a man likes a woman, she is expected to like him back but if a woman crushes on a man and he is not interested she is expected to leave him alone. A man will ‘psst’ at a female and if she refuses to give him any attention, he will pursue, insult and even manhandle her. If a woman likes a man and he is not interested and he makes his disinterest known, the woman is suppose to give up and leave him alone. Why can’t men leave a women alone when they show they are not interested?

8. Men who insist that they do not eat and yet expect women to eat (from) them. Oral sex has always been an issue that highlights the hypocrisy of some Jamaican men. Not all men are uncomfortable and some will admit that they will do it but a vast majority will “nyam bible leaf” that they do not believe in men doing oral sex yet seem to enjoy receiving it from a female. How can you enjoy something you do not see yourself doing? That is just plain hypocrisy. Like Kartel bashing Lisa Hype and then endorsing the same concept in his later music. 

9. This ties in with number one. Many Jamaican men love to give bun (cheat) and expect their women to forgive and move on. A man will insist that the woman ‘get over it’ and stop nagging him about his indiscretion. Now make him a get a bun and it’s a whole different scenario. He will cuss, bawl and wail over the alleged cheating and find it very difficult to forgive his woman. His friends who had no qualms about encouraging him to cheat will say ” Don’t be no Bottle torch or One Burner” will boost him to leave him woman cause “the gyal diss him”. So hypocritical. 

10. The Jamaican man can carry himself any way in a relationship but not so for females. Men think they deserve the most beautiful and sexiest girls and want to carry themselves as them feel like. Men say it is their spending power that a woman is attracted to and not their bodies so they can come with “big belly, face full a hair and two days don’t bathe or brush teeth” and females are suppose to accept it once they are spending their money. Women now have to be perfect in every way and less attractive men will call girls ugly and fat when they have big belly, no teeth and dirty clothes swag. 

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Crystal Evans

Crystal Evans was born in Westmoreland Jamaica. She is the author of several books centered on her experiences growing up in rural Jamaica and the Jamaican cultural nucleus. She is a voracious reader.

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Janet Margaret Davis
6 years ago

hahaha Love this….. (1) and (2) those men are dogs and should sleep in a dog kennel at night (3) I was married to a Jamaican and trust me, this happens! The only time he would take in my washing was when I was (a) either too sick and (b) at night when no one could see him (4) men are a law unto themselves and think they are the “bomb” (5) see (1) and (2) if you don’t want babies either refrain from having sex or put something on the end of it (6) men – get a life!… Read more »

Pauline Meeks
6 years ago

so true most of these black are shit trust me

Kristin Higgins
6 years ago

I have but one thing to say , what you allow will continue .I am enjoying your blogs Crystal I re-post them onto my white female friends who don’t have a clue as to what Jamaican man is all about .

Bepat Samador
6 years ago

My dear …you lick the nail on the head…everything you say is true …lol

Bepat Samador
6 years ago

My dear …you lick the nail on the head…everything you say is true …lol

Elizabeth Powell-Mills

This does not apply to Jamaican men alone,men in general are like this,(all 10 things you mentioned)

Dave Clarke
6 years ago

Not guilty of any of these.

Jeanie Barrett
6 years ago

It’s perfectly so true on all ten things but we the females need to change and overturn this. We allow men to get away with for too much and not respecting ourselves enough

William-Andrew Smith
6 years ago

Find a nerd and y’all will never have these problems

Rio TheDirector Dixon
6 years ago

KMT THIS IS THE MOST SEXIST ARTICLE EVER. YOU WROTE AS IF YOUR NOT JAMAICAN. NOTHING IS WRONG WITH SOME OF THEM BUT YOU SHOULD TRY TO GET YOUR POINT ACROSS BUT NOT LET IT SEEM SO PERSONAL

Arlington Turner
6 years ago

SOME OF WHAT YOU SAYS HAS SOME MERIT BUT MOST OF IT IS UTTER RUBBISH GARBAGE,I GUESS YOU LEAVE WESTMORLAND SO LONG YOU DONT HAVE A CLUE WHAT GOES ON HERE, COME ON; HERE IN JA,WE ARE NOT A TRIBE WE ARE A PROUD PEOPLE BUT I GUESS YOU ARE NOT SO PROUD;WHEN WAS THE LAST TIME YOU BEEN HOME REALLY,,,,I GUESS SO KMFT

Casey Zion Thompson
6 years ago

This is just stupid it’s racesist to say only jamaican men do these things and sexist because women so a lot of those stuff too

King Nick
6 years ago

kmt

Beverley Dixon
6 years ago

I think that men get away with most of these things because women allow it. we give them control over us. we find all kind of reasons as to why we do. In the name of LOVE . Love for who sorry i love me first

Beverley Dixon
6 years ago

I think that men get away with most of these things because women allow it. we give them control over us. we find all kind of reasons as to why we do. In the name of LOVE . Love for who sorry i love me first

Kevaughn Pressa Fraser

with all that has been said remember “1 size shoes doesn’t fit all”….

Winsome Summer Chase
6 years ago

Such bullshits !women ecmapicate yourself mentally slavery .

Moya Oneilla Rose-Miller

Any idiot with these preconceived notions will never get me

Alessandra Dee
6 years ago

this just goes to show how inferior women are in society. Everywhere you go you have it. Based on how I see it, women are to be subordinate to their men and men should just live their lives how they want to. That’s crappy, more like a dog lifestyle. Men and women are to be equal and respected just the same.

Jhunelle Spence
6 years ago

Number 9. I never see a thing that bugs me so much.

Richard 'Jack' Coley
6 years ago

Foolishness, rubbish, Bulls__t, utter crap; except for # 5 and # 6 partially!

Richard 'Jack' Coley
6 years ago

Foolishness, rubbish, Bulls__t, utter crap; except for # 5 and # 6 partially!

Colleen Small
6 years ago

A true a just plain true. If you date Jamaican men then you’ve met at least two of the ten in the article. Me? I switched and I would NEVER go back…. sa passe to mi ting now. Lol ( hope I spelled that right. Oh well

Paul Higgins
6 years ago

From a man’s point of view, a man from yard, the behavior of some men don’t categories the action of an entire nation of men. I was brought up to love and respect my mother and sisters, and all women who have been in my life. I am a member of fourteen siblings family all of the same mother and father, my parents were not perfect but they love each other until death took my dad after sixty years of mirage. Mom is now ninety three years old and still have fun memories of her husband, my dad. Men who… Read more »

Marie Petronzio
6 years ago

Hi Crystal! I am fast becoming a huge fan of your posts. You are a prolific writer, and certainly hit many nails on their heads here. It is hard to change other’s thought processes that are ingrained since birth; however, you succeed in making us (women) really think about what the hell we are doing, and why. Kudos!

Sharon Buchanan
5 years ago

PEOPLE STILL LIVE LIKE THIS, GOD help us all

Borry Ness
5 years ago

A few objections going on here. I think some of these could be attributed to a majority of men. Jamaican man is notorious. Always pleasant to be proven wrong

Nicky Nicky
5 years ago

I agree with EVERYTHING in this article.

Courtney Gayle
5 years ago

garbage

Janet Margaret Davis
5 years ago

@William Andrew Smith… Must be you this article is written for…..

kelley
5 years ago

Thank you! I’ve been living this for years wondering who is spilling the beans.

Casey Zion Thompson
5 years ago

This is just stupid it’s racesist to say only jamaican men do these things and sexist because women so a lot of those stuff too

Beverley Dixon
5 years ago

I think that men get away with most of these things because women allow it. we give them control over us. we find all kind of reasons as to why we do. In the name of LOVE . Love for who sorry i love me first

Marie Petronzio
5 years ago

Hi Crystal! I am fast becoming a huge fan of your posts. You are a prolific writer, and certainly hit many nails on their heads here. It is hard to change other’s thought processes that are ingrained since birth; however, you succeed in making us (women) really think about what the hell we are doing, and why. Kudos!

Paul Higgins
5 years ago

From a man’s point of view, a man from yard, the behavior of some men don’t categories the action of an entire nation of men. I was brought up to love and respect my mother and sisters, and all women who have been in my life. I am a member of fourteen siblings family all of the same mother and father, my parents were not perfect but they love each other until death took my dad after sixty years of mirage. Mom is now ninety three years old and still have fun memories of her husband, my dad. Men who… Read more »

Colleen Small
5 years ago

A true a just plain true. If you date Jamaican men then you’ve met at least two of the ten in the article. Me? I switched and I would NEVER go back…. sa passe to mi ting now. Lol ( hope I spelled that right. Oh well

Alessandra Dee
5 years ago

this just goes to show how inferior women are in society. Everywhere you go you have it. Based on how I see it, women are to be subordinate to their men and men should just live their lives how they want to. That’s crappy, more like a dog lifestyle. Men and women are to be equal and respected just the same.

Richard 'Jack' Coley
5 years ago

Foolishness, rubbish, Bulls__t, utter crap; except for # 5 and # 6 partially!

Kevaughn Pressa Fraser

with all that has been said remember “1 size shoes doesn’t fit all”…. what about the Jamaican one burners?

Winsome Summer Chase
5 years ago

Such bullshits !women ecmapicate yourself mentally slavery .

Amouia Rose-Miller
5 years ago

Any idiot with these preconceived notions will never get me

Jhunelle Spence
5 years ago

Number 9. I never see a thing that bugs me so much.

Nick Campbell
5 years ago

kmt

Zeljka Jackie Maxwell
5 years ago

So if I may, why is it, so many Jamaican women have several children with several different men? It’s a question please do not condem me for it, I have my theory…but would like to hear it from a mother herself.

Zeljka Jackie Maxwell
5 years ago

So if I may, why is it, so many Jamaican women have several children with several different men? It’s a question please do not condem me for it, I have my theory…but would like to hear it from a mother herself.

Trevor Simpson
5 years ago

Jamaica is a post-slavery society that refuses to accept the effects of the slavery ‘breeding’ philosophy and therefore will always be in problems. The approach and the relationship that the two genders have towards sexual intercourse will always be different because of the structure of the physical interaction. Women have to give consent for intercourse to take place and so women giving themselves away will always be ‘seen’ as very low. The general desire to have intercourse is often more towards men than women. This problem is not just for Jamaican men, but accentuated in a post-slavery breeding society. Rich… Read more »

Aldane Gayle
5 years ago

Woman are real player’s

Dizzy Aster
5 years ago

This can be said for any man of any background.

Mark Watson
5 years ago

Good for you Crystal

K T
K T
6 months ago

All that is said in this article is true. However, I must say that despite all of these negative traits, there are some Jamaican men who are faithful, great partners and lovers and ones who would do anything to please their women- including cooking, washing (even their underwear), cleaning etc. The way I see it though is that as a woman we should not allow a man to wash our underwear unless we are sick etc. That is our responsibility. I grew up seeing my father taking my mother’s underwear off the line and even when my mother is home.… Read more »