With Valentine’s Day the world’s most romantic day of the year, Love Doctor Monti – who boasts a sprinkling of Cuban and Jamaica heritage – reveals his top five tips.
- Love is long-term, lust is short-term
Those seeking a feel-good fix, often will be fooled by the neurotransmitters of dopamine and serotonin and fall under the spell of lust instead of love. In which case, the relationship is likely to fall apart when the rose-tinted glasses slip off and the character flaws become apparent.
If you meet someone that you feel deserves your attention and could be your significant other then be patient, do not try to impress too soon.
Allow a relationship to develop into a slow-burning romance by showing respect at all times and allowing love to gradually grow equally as a couple.
- Keep the heart rate pumping
When singletons initially realise that there is something special between them and their potential partner then the heart rate suddenly increases.
When you arrange a date, do not allow this feeling of excitement to die. Keep the heart rate pumping by arranging to do edgy things together, which will ensure that those powerful feelings last and the relationship can blossom.
- Know your value before embarking on a relationship
Too often singletons view someone who is out of their league in terms of age, financial clout or look. However, they still have the desire to pursue that ‘prize’ for the sheer thrill of the chase.
It is vital to know your value as a potential partner, and what you can offer both on a short-term and long-term basis before embarking on a relationship.
By being realistic in assessing your value and what you can offer. This will ultimately prevent wasting your time, money and efforts in chasing someone who will never truly be interested in you.
Best to remember the expression of ‘Birds of a feather flock together’ exists for a reason before wasting energy by chasing the impossible.
- Eye gazing, listening, nodding and smiling goes a long way
Learn to build up a natural strong bonding through simple actions to kick off the relationship with caring behaviour.
The combination of these are powerful and will keep your romance alive as long as these actions are genuine and maintained.
- Boost love chemicals
Numerous brain chemicals provide the feeling of attachment and romance, especially oxytocin – the one and only love hormone.
Try to find someone that makes you truly happy because of the oxytocin chemicals that are released.
Oxytocin can be enhanced by caring and thoughtful actions. This can include cuddling, holding hands, sharing meals together and even watching romantic films as a couple. If you plan to include these within your next romance then you will see the difference from previous relationships.
Males can discover whether she is ‘the one’ quite easily. Studies claim that males only release oxytocin when they are with someone that they truly care about, which is what helps to create a monogamous bond.
About Love Doctor Monti (aka Neil-Monticelli Harley-Rüdd)
He has been prescribing the perfect matching-making remedy for in search of their one true love.
Having studied the art of love and romance in France, he has over three decades of helping singletons across the globe – from Jamaica to Japan – find dates and is regularly featured on TV, radio and traditional media.
Since starting dating website www.Rightflirt.club, Monti hosts various innovative dating events, from dinner dates to all inclusive singles holidays where he hones in on going back to older dating traditions that are centred in real life experiences.
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