Ten THINGS Jamaican Men wish Women knew
1. They love their male friends and their companionship. It is important to them to spend time with their male friends. They bond more with their brethren since they understand each other and can empathize with their experiences and situations than their spouses. They also feel more comfortable sharing “certain” information with their male friends.
2. If you are the wife, you should not be concerned with the assorted women he sleeps with on the side since you are the one that he comes home to every night. Women should turn a blind eye to their liaisons and infidelities if you are his main chick. You should not question his loyalty to you if you are living with him and your needs are being met.
3. Do not answer his phone or search his phone. Men hate when women invade their private space and they do not want to answer to their indiscretions. They do not want to put the woman in a position for her to witness messages in his phone that may hurt her. You lose your right to question him about anything dis-satisfactory you found in his phone since you are by law not suppose to search phone. “Anything you get, you must take, you went looking for something and you got what you were searching for”
4.Men want to have fun! Do not think that when your Jamaican man starts having sex with you, its a license for you to go ahead and get pregnant and tie him down. Your Jamaican man wants to enjoy you and he wants to have fun with you before you decide to get big and bloated. The onus is on you to protect yourself and maintain the “Fun” in the relationship. Why would you want to complicate a situation with a man you met a month ago by getting pregnant and then by your second trimester, you realize you are not getting what you want out of the relationship.
5. Babies cant hold man. Do not think that you can trap a Jamaican man into a long term relationship by getting pregnant. You will end up with the wrong end of the stick. Most men (in reality) will withdraw their affection than indulge a woman when he discovers that she is pregnant after he has hinted that he doesn’t want a child or the relationship is still in its embryonic stage. Additionally men do not think that having babies is synonymous with ambition and progress. An ambitious, progressive woman is less inclined to get pregnant in Jamaica’s brittle adverse financial climate.
6. Good Sex will keep any man around but a wholesome woman will get a man to marry her. Men are no longer “looking inna face” when it comes to relationships. They want a partner that can bring some money to the table. One hand cannot clap! They don’t need a parasitic partner but a symbiosis in their relationship. They want a partner who is leading her separate independent financial life and is not entirely dependent on him for subsistence. They claim that men want women in “9 to 5” Jobs since “times are hard”.
7. Men don’t want women who act like men. According to these young men, they want a woman who is female in the traditional sense of the word. She doesn’t question his whereabouts when he doesn’t come home! She does not call his phone and demand to know where he is! She does not see him with other women and make a scene instead she turns a blind eye! He doesn’t want a drama queen or a woman that is assertive and opinionated. He prefers docility and invisibility! A Woman who “keeps in” and takes care of his home while he traipsing across the island, having the time of his life.
8. Do not insult him in front of his friends or in public. You can even pretend to support his stance in front of his friends but do not damage his social image or reduce his peers’ respect for him by constantly asserting your opinions and emasculating him. This is the reason why he may be forced to insult and humiliate you so that he can retrieve his masculinity and peer validation. It is best to acquiesce and make him look good in front of friends. So do not become argumentative with him during a debate, if you are not on his side, “it better you no say nothing”
9. Do not treat your man like a child even if he is being juvenile. Do not see him with his friends and beckon him to come to your in a maternal voice like his mother. Men do not like to be made to feel like boys in public. They like to appear as if they are in control of their relationship, even if they are not. Stroke his ego and tell him how much of a big man he is and you will have a relationship devoid of conflicts and quarrels. Do not approach your man at a public event and raise your hand calling him like a little boy from a few feet afar, while others look on. Some men will simply ignore you and instead of embarrassing him, you end up humiliating yourself.
10. He prefers to go to the club with his friends than with you. It is not as fun when you are there because they have to be censoring their arguments and frolicking since they do not want to compromise your relationship. Clubbing is their time to unwind and have fun. It does not mean (according to them) it is an opportunity to cheat or find a prospective cheating partner. They are not hunting in packs but simply unwinding with friends while gawking, ogling and wining on women who are not their partners. They claim that they are just partying and that it doesn’t mean anything and women should not be tight strung about men going clubbing with their male friends.
What do you think?
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which sexist idiot wrote this.
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As much as many will not like to admit, there is a lot of truth in this. I agree with most.
Number 2 is definitely a NO NO NO lol. But honestly even though I think most Jamaican men won’t ask their woman to turn a bling eye to their infidelities – the sad truth is many do. Let’s be honest here. I’ve personally heard many men tell their woman “Ohhh a yuh a di wifey – dem other girl deh me nuh ccare bout dem – a you me love”
Am i lying?
It seems a lot of Jamaican men need to grow up and become men in the real sense and take responsibility.
Apparently you are fully compliant with these views since it appears that you quietly and dutifully sat and listened.
Now all of that is really funny. Can we get on to sum realities plz?!
SO TRUE!
This is well written but if u think about it, it is very insulting of what they claim Jamaican man want woman to be, and who the hell expects woman to always turn a blind eye and woman with ambition job and education won’t have a hard time talking back because they are already an asset unless this is a stay at home female who needs a man with a low self esteem and not all Jamaican man are like that.
ok then…… we too as women have a life and go clubbing and have friends and talk with them and go out with them. No we wont turn a blind eye to your actions thats how we will contract HIV? AIDS. if u act like a child we will treat you accordingly. we have a job, we have children, we have the house, we have friends and we have you. What do men have their job, and their friends. Men dont flatter your selves we have a life too and it does not revolve around you only. Niggas please!
It still sounds like men should be treated like children….it still spells sarcasm …some of you women don’t want MEN you want BOYS…
As it relates to #6 most talking about independent women are just guys who want to do nothing for their woman you independent loose your job and see how many of those men give you a helping hand until you get back on your feet. They are just using independent as an excuse because sometimes that same man screaming independent women has a side chick he’s giving half his pay. Independence is not a bad thing it just should not be for some men to shy away from responsibilities
As it relates to #6 most talking about independent women are just guys who want to do nothing for their woman you independent loose your job and see how many of those men give you a helping hand until you get back on your feet. They are just using independent as an excuse because sometimes that same man screaming independent women has a side chick he’s giving half his pay. Independence is not a bad thing it just should not be for some men to shy away from responsibilities
you men should be ashamed of yourselves cant even com up with ten decent things for women to even think about knowing
some of it is true but i think men should go out more with their woman .I personally experience men going out with his friend rather than his woman.Very rare a man goes with his woman alot they mostly go out with their friends even if a woman isn’t a jealous type sometimes she will feel neglected.
these niggas need to stay single. Good men are out there and they want to play games. These are boys , I only deal with mature men.
I wish I had access to this 15 years ago. I would’ve done a lot of this differently. Jamaican men seem to want a puppet. They control all the strings. They want the security of a good stable relationship but don’t want to work for it. Such a pity.
Crap!!!!
As to do with the independent part i strongly agree that it is good to be an independent woman but most of the time when a male stresses independence is that these men are mean just want you to be with them and spend money on them and your self.Am talking from experience as you loose your job when they stress you out and nag you to just quit because of their insecurities they started to differ from you and then they say they want independent woman.SMH a the piggy bank bruk dun dat why dem a gwaan suh and dem nuh want throw nuh draw hence ends the relationship and find a richer girl.TOO many bruk pocket man seh independence tru dem nuh wah give nuttin.Anyways that,s my view.
KMT this is a load of crap and so immature the title should state what Jamaican Boys wish Jamaican girls knew!
Jamaican men are great if your not looking for commitment ,but if you do want commitment you will be hard pushed to find a decent one with morals respect decency loyalty .They are masters at talking the talk with their pleasant ego-boosting flirty conversations its not difficult not to be flattered. Why cant they keep their zipp up their no rock stars being chased by every groupie in town But without womans participation they couldn’t behave like this ,they can do this because woman let them get away with it .
This is written by a Jamaican Woman. This is the crap we have to deal with! And look how quick you made a church with your messed up views. Smh.
just don’t really agree with the #2
This RIDICULOUS and no wonder most are either single or with women as flippant and unfaithful as they are.
?Realy2 condone inffidelity and possible exposing one self to some communicable disease if he used no protection among other things(4) do not get pregnant well in this day and age both parties should be in agreement before making such a decision, or at least make sure you can support a child on your own.(10)I say you sound as if you want your cake and eat it if in a committed relationship priorities change yes you must each have time with friends but if the reason is for more that hanging out stay single you are not husband material and say you prefer being single,Far too many females put up with nonsense for the sake of being married or having a man.
What a bigoted wish list Dream on This is not what relationships are about Apparently they want to have their cake and eat it I do wonder how Jamaican women would cope with this kind of behaviour Where these guys in serious relationships at all ?
Obviously the thoughts of 5 men that only party and have the same lifestyle! #yrekcuf
Well there’s is many truths to these opinions of Jamaican men. I HAVE experienced some of their selfish, demanding and irresponsible behavior. The
types of men are very disgusting and out of order. OverAll it’s best to run like he’ll when u see them coming.
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I bet these guys were in their late teens or early twenties. Some Jamaican men around this age tend to have some expectations that are very selfish. The problem i have with some Jamaican men is that they expect you to be a partner in bringing in the money but most of them still are not partners when it comes to domesticated chores around the house.
1. If you enjoy your time with your bredrin more than your woman….. something wrong with you or your relationship.
2.You nuh want a wife, you want another woman.
3. If she cant answer your phone. Its either you’re not mature enough to handle a relationship or she isn’t.
4. Pregnant women cant have sex too??? If its your sperm that got her pregnant why isn’t protection your responsibility?
5. wouldn’t have happened if you you saw protection as your responsibility.
6. Good sex will GET any man… not “KEEP”. Its the wholesome woman that will keep a man.
7. Traditional woman that doesn’t care where you are or when your getting home, nor care who you are with??? GET YOUR THOUGHTS TOGETHER AND THINK ABOUT THAT ANSWER AGAIN!
8. If she is of the mind set to insult you, maybe you shouldn’t be with her? Dude she doesn’t respect you.
If you care about your social status that much… marry facebook.
if you have to insult and humiliate her to “regain” your masculinity…. you didnt have any to begin with.
9. Read #8 again
10. Read #1, #2 and learn that everybody needs different types of relationships to be a balance and rounded individual. No sensible person ever said every minute of the day should be spent with the one you love.
The only thing I would like to know is what age group do these men/boys fall into.
The only thing I would like to know is what age group do these men/boys fall into.
I think Jamaican men are screwed
I think Jamaican men are screwed
Lol…….. Cho backside dem Jamaican man ya no easy at all…….Mek me c wha go happen when d tables turn…Me no wan nobody a sarch me phone….. Me no go a club but to the ladies who go wit them girlfriends go hang out a d club a guess d man dem shudn upset neither….. And finalliy may God go wit unu and a whole host a angels caa unu need SALVATION!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Jesus inna unu so unu can c where unu go wrong… An memba condoms still exist cas some a unu no deserve fi get pickney And ladies tek it from me if unu continue fi gwaan like eediat a so d man dem ago treat unu…..
What about women needs. I don’t really like the part that he cheats and I actually found out and I should not ask him about it. If I can’t talk to him about that then why staying in that relationship? He has to leave I am sorry.
All they are talking about is not to embarrass them they want to feel like a real man,what happen to when they flirt and makes us look stupid and turning a blind eye that’s crazy it not always about them and go a trip while we stay home bull shit!!!!relationships is about working together ,not for one person.
I want to see the female version of this 🙂
Two words.GROW UP
I suggest ladies you look outside your country like NZ or Australia men are different they involve their woman as their better half they show respect
I think sometimes men has a warp sense of being. These are not men, they are punks. The sad thing is every culture, ethnic group and even religions have allowed men to be this way, as we believe that this is how it must be (King Solomon crap in this day and age). See how these same punks are if the tables turn. Seriously!!!! I should not worry while you are out there contracting all manner of STIs to come and pass on to me?!! Life will just get worse if we don’t take a stand against immorality of this sort. God help us!!!
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My wife and I have been married since 1994, in the same christian faith that is, and, while we have been through lots of challenges on our journey, we have manage to establish a few policies based on the values we cherish. 1. We have our social friends but also moral boundaries of being friendly with them. 2. We have nothing to hide on on our phones or emails, though we are individually enjoying our privacy. She answers my calls and checks my emails whenever it is necessary and visa versa. 3. We call and check up on each other. 4. We are committed and accountable to each other in our finances, so I don’t have to hide my wallet in the garden. 5. We keep the Fun Only between us. While physiques play part of our attraction to each other, our success of growing so far, is mainly a result of daily discipline midst those daring and attractive tempters and a character transformed by God’s word. Please note that we are still far from being the PERFECT couple. Its very difficult to sustain a genuine, balanced and safe relationship when there is a disregard on both sides for respect, morality and a failure to persevere for the goal to love as is found in 1 Corinthians 13: 4-8.
Hog wash! I have come to learn that there are so many down low Jamaican men (in Jamaica) who have girlfriends baby mama’s and wives, so no they do not want you going through their phones and reading their messages.
I can understand numbers: 4, 5, 6, 8 & 9 the others HECK NO!
this sound like a bunch of kids
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I just got dumber by reading this garbage
I just got dumber by reading this garbage
My fiancée would give me a stern look just for reading this.
My fiancée would give me a stern look just for reading this.
A bag of bull shit……………and it is not just Jamaican men its “MEN”.It takes a real man not to think like this,or maybe I should say suppress this ideology. 4,5,6,8 and nine is ok. everything else is gay shit(using a word men don’t want to be associate with…LOL).however I wish all men would just come straight out and say this shit from the beginning,lets see how many of them get any decent woman other than sluts and home wrecker type.Maybe women should start feeling the same way, then you will hear some of them bawl like a bitch about it.Remember do unto others as you’d have them do to you.
a no man dem yah a likkle streggeh yout dem dem a describe… sounds like a pickney ting dem want kmt smh
VERY SAD!! That the internet allows psychologically unstable female who were obviously hurt in their own relationship to write and post articles, with the aim of destroying relationships and the reputation of all Jamaican men. this article was written with the aim of destroying women’s faith in men so that everybody else can be as miserable as she is. She made it clear that Jamaican men aren’t SHIT,
She said that they valued their friends more that their women
That they believed women should be ok with them being cheater and being cheated on
That they just want to use women as toys for fun
That they will not stay in the lives of their children
That they want women to take care of them financially
etc.
any woman that believes this crap, obviously has a problem just like her. leave this woman in her misery and let it kill her, i know she won’t be able to poison of sensible women, that have any experience dealing with intelligent Jamaican men.
All these men do is justify their awful behavior…better to b single less stress
Well all I can say is that, thank god this is only the view of 5 men, and does not reflect Jaimacan Men in general…..
I have to laugh at some of these comments its his all good that women have evolve in a new era where they can accept the laws of men above the laws of God most women have lost their value by the way they think in this modern times doing anything and every thing to prove self worth, but what is the value of a woman who have tried many men to find that one who she thinks will not follow his god given instinct as a man just like all the other species that have been created, not knowing that a woman’s body is the only thing that emanate the essence of God because she creates life therefore her body is sacred yet they defile the divine laws by been with many men while the first man that took their maiden is their husband in the sight of god, no wonder why we have so many break up and divorce while men will always be doing the same thing they left the other one for maybe not a cheater but a abuser, gambler or maybe a closet sissy choose one because that’s the reality or stay single as one com mentors says but is this the will of God why they was created, thank God for olden days women because they have earn their place as women while these with their new laws are creating ciaos and nothing have change but killings and lawlessness, most of the 10 is right for the confident women who have nothing to fear…I wonder why nature is producing more female to male.
Cheap satire.
Cheap satire.
To me this seems like a joke…kmt @ 6 (Dont trap a man by getting pregnant) He wanted that baby. Kmt. 1 hand cant clap dat means a woman stand alone cant get pregnant. If he is a man it would have been planned properly or some discussion made.
All i can say is, 2 can play that game and women play it better. Anything u share give me, i can assure u that u will get it back.
To me this seems like a joke…kmt @ 6 (Dont trap a man by getting pregnant) He wanted that baby. Kmt. 1 hand cant clap dat means a woman stand alone cant get pregnant. If he is a man it would have been planned properly or some discussion made.
All i can say is, 2 can play that game and women play it better. Anything u share give me, i can assure u that u will get it back.
This is why Im not dating Jamaican men.. I love them but this bullshit im not taking especially #2
Did the writer say “men”??? I’ll give her the benefit of the doubt, and posit that she meant to write “irresponsible boys” instead. On the other hand, why on earth would a ANYONE want to search another person’s phone??? That is without a doubt invasion of privacy!!
Did the writer say “men”??? I’ll give her the benefit of the doubt, and posit that she meant to write “irresponsible boys” instead. On the other hand, why on earth would a ANYONE want to search another person’s phone??? That is without a doubt invasion of privacy!!
Did the writer say “men”??? I’ll give her the benefit of the doubt, and posit that she meant to write “irresponsible boys” instead. On the other hand, why on earth would a ANYONE want to search another person’s phone??? That is without a doubt invasion of privacy!!
I can understand all except 2.
A load of crap
Which lowlife wrote this? I’m a man and, with a few exceptions, this is the biggest load of bull crap that I have ever seen written anywhere. I have never preferred being with males than with my special lady. What a misrepresentation of Jamaican men. Something is seriously wrong with men who want to live like this. Speak for yourselves!
Which lowlife wrote this? I’m a man and, with a few exceptions, this is the biggest load of bull crap that I have ever seen written anywhere. I have never preferred being with males than with my special lady. What a misrepresentation of Jamaican men. Something is seriously wrong with men who want to live like this. Speak for yourselves!
is this article for real??
That was simply a lot of BULL…I can’t believe some men still think like that……. no wonder the women cheat with other men…..”ladies link mi…cause mi nuh tink dem wey deh”
I dont agree with most of this bullshit..Wives are not toys and should be treated as priority with utmost respect.Obviously, you dont know much about true love…
I dont agree with most of this bullshit..Wives are not toys and should be treated as priority with utmost respect.Obviously, you dont know much about true love…
i dont agree
with #2 at all
Sounds damn stupid and hypocritical.
Biggest load of rubbish I have read all year.
I don’t want any Jamaican man, they sleep with anything!
What’s good for the goose is good for the gander. Flip the coin. How does it feel? Distasteful I suppose.
Crystal Evans I know you add some stuff to this article to make them come across the way we think of them. I always believe that men behave as if we are toys and ediots, & if you can honestly say you Did Not pad this article, & these words came from their lips then I guess I will forever be single. I need a partnership, good convetsations, plans, growth, love and respect as that’s all I have to offer to the one I chose to love.
Sadly these things are all true based on my observance and it is SAD, But what makes it even more disheartening is that some of these traits are shared by men of other nationalities and cultures too. smh
This is the stupidest thing I have ever read in my whole entire life!!!!!!!! Needless to say I am gald am not Jamaican woman! I feel petty for the women there if what I read is entirely true.. this ideology is one of the reasons why women are downsized and obligated to take crap some society put for them. I assure you Jamaican women its not like that in other part of the world and you deserve a man who is different in every way! and I tell you its not a fairy tale. There exists a man who is devoted, honest, handsome and who treats you like a queen than some trophy he got some time ago. Women power! You can say NO to this! Every women deserves BETTER!!
Here ends my love for Jamaican men. Lol not a baxcova!!
Here ends my love for Jamaican men. Lol not a baxcova!!
Don’t blame men ladies, blame your bad choice in men. With all the bad experience a woman has with a particular man, you will find many other women had that same bad experience with that same man. 80 /20 rule!
The sarcasm is uncanny, but there are truths to a lot of your statements, although most are gross exaggeration and may reflect the opinions of very few men or a male talking through his EGO. Males would rather be free to be happy doing as they please, but most responsible men would never abandon his responsibility, once he can stand up to it. Never forget the role a woman plays in a man’s leaving! ‘Two sides to every story’ . Sorry but like many other men I have grown sick of females laying out qualities for the man she wants without considering what it is she has to offer, sorry sex is just not enough, as special as you are there are another 4 billion or so females in the world with a vagina.
I think most Jamaican men are like this!!!
So in other words the women are an unpaid maids with a roof over their heads……lets suppose the women have the same attitude as the man reasoning that she comes home to him at the end of the day how would she be viewed?…..AIDS KILLS THE INNOCENT.
lol
Any man who genuinely thinks like this is ridiculous.
He wants his mama from all of what she’s saying. If he loves me why is it ok for him to sleep around? I would rather be alone than HIV happy. Sorry I’ll pass she can keep that one.
These are facts however very unrealistic expectations. I don’t know what these jamaican men who expressed these expectation are thinking but they are downright crazy and foolish. However it’s crazy how some women will do these thing…gtfoh
rather be alone than to be unhappy
It is so true because most of what you said my husband is just like that but most relationships will fail if both parties don’t contribute.
Did someone actually sat and wrote what could be considered the views of young teenage boys who are obviously immature and not ready to experience a woman?! Well apparently someone did and I’m embarrass to say a female wrote this. I just waste my time reading it! Anyway, When the views of real men r posted then I can truly say it’s a satisfactory read.
Ladies if u want a lasting relationship with ur partner i suggest u take a few of ur thoughts inconsideration.
Some of these points will never pass in my cabinet.
This was very hard to read as this is all facts. There is no truer way of saying what these men are doing. Some are more brazen while other do it discretely but they all do one or several of whats listed 1 thru 10. Sad that we women have to suffer thru it…we all say were gonna remain single but even if a few years pass we still end up with someone and we hope they are better than the last then you notice that you demonstrate one or a few of the same shit from your past 🙁 sad reality!!!
find some new friends to hang out with !!! These …lol OMG!!!
Turn a blind eye to their infidelities? fine as long as they turn a blind eye to mine as well then. No way in hell can my man go flash his dick all over town while I sit at home smile and act oblivious. Sorry I cannot accept that no wifey is supposed to play second fiddle to a matey.
I can damn well ask my man where has he been. I’m the one that lost sleep waiting up on him. He better have a damn good explanation. I work as well so if work finish at 6p.m. and he’s strolling in at 4a.m. He had better know that the excuse is going to have to be damn good.
I can do what u can and do and even do it better two can play that game
these are not Jamaican Men these are Jamaican BOY!!!!
Also simply treat and deal with others as you would want to be treated….. b/c as we most woman know….man can gee bun, but CAAN tek it back
As unfair that most of this sound. .. In my opinion. . Most is definitively true…. but Me personally not “sitting down”and aware and tolerating number 2..not a bbc…. I expect the same loyalty I’m giving you. Not to mention I have something to add to the table as well, I’m not tolerating welcoming any potential STD’s in my relationship, or intentional discreet, as the he Americans say… I can do bad by my self.
Well my jamaican husband can have his bachelorhood back any time he wants and according to these ten things that is what a bachelor can have but a Godly Christian woman being married to a jamaican would never stand for the majority of those things . We have worked out a understanding do unto each other as we would have each other do unto each other and since he keeps a pretty tight reign on me it go equally his way , but any time he’ wants the old jamaican way back well the door to bachelorhood is his choice
Obviously guys who think like this a very up to date with the time knowing that their women require the same behaviour from them.
NO SAH.. MI NEED A DIFFERENT BREED A MAN THEN
Some of it makes sense but the rest is crop because if I see my man with a next woman I’m not going to turn a blind eye sorrrry was that will be drama and if I’m living with someone I should have the right to check up on you because I know you will want to do the same
lolzzz….. there is iust a few i agree with.. majority *squints eyes* lolz lolz some things to consider for future references.. but others i find disgust in.. n noooo good sensible woman wwould give ear too…. utter crap #2… but you know ……..my opinion (Y)
Who did you interview? 16 year olds? I refuse to believe a real man would have these kinds of comments.
P.S. No disrespect Crystal, but you said men in this discussion was your spouse and his friends. Should I feel sorry for you?
Well my Jamaican husband is nothing like what’s depicted in this column, I must say I’m lucky.
This article is nonsense. Kmt
It seems a lot of Jamaican men need to grow up and become men in the real sense and take responsibility.
As much as many will not like to admit, there is a lot of truth in this. I agree with most.
Number 2 is definitely a NO NO NO lol. But honestly even though I think most Jamaican men won’t ask their woman to turn a blind eye to their infidelities – the sad truth is many do. Let’s be honest here. I’ve personally heard many men tell their woman “Ohhh a yuh a di wifey – dem other girl deh me nuh ccare bout dem – a you me love”
Am i lying?
ok then…… we too as women have a life and go clubbing and have friends and talk with them and go out with them. No we wont turn a blind eye to your actions thats how we will contract HIV? AIDS. if u act like a child we will treat you accordingly. we have a job, we have children, we have the house, we have friends and we have you. What do men have their job, and their friends. Men dont flatter your selves we have a life too and it does not revolve around you only. Niggas please!
Apparently you are fully compliant with these views since it appears that you quietly and dutifully sat and listened.
Now all of that is really funny. Can we get on to sum realities plz?!
you men should be ashamed of yourselves cant even com up with ten decent things for women to even think about knowing
This is well written but if u think about it, it is very insulting of what they claim Jamaican man want woman to be, and who the hell expects woman to always turn a blind eye and woman with ambition job and education won’t have a hard time talking back because they are already an asset unless this is a stay at home female who needs a man with a low self esteem and not all Jamaican man are like that.
I wish I had access to this 15 years ago. I would’ve done a lot of this differently. Jamaican men seem to want a puppet. They control all the strings. They want the security of a good stable relationship but don’t want to work for it. Such a pity.
1. If you enjoy your time with your bredrin more than your woman….. something wrong with you or your relationship.
2.You nuh want a wife, you want another woman.
3. If she cant answer your phone. Its either you’re not mature enough to handle a relationship or she isn’t.
4. Pregnant women cant have sex too??? If its your sperm that got her pregnant why isn’t protection your responsibility?
5. wouldn’t have happened if you you saw protection as your responsibility.
6. Good sex will GET any man… not “KEEP”. Its the wholesome woman that will keep a man.
7. Traditional woman that doesn’t care where you are or when your getting home, nor care who you are with??? GET YOUR THOUGHTS TOGETHER AND THINK ABOUT THAT ANSWER AGAIN!
8. If she is of the mind set to insult you, maybe you shouldn’t be with her? Dude she doesn’t respect you.
If you care about your social status that much… marry facebook.
if you have to insult and humiliate her to “regain” your masculinity…. you didnt have any to begin with.
9. Read #8 again
10. Read #1, #2 and learn that everybody needs different types of relationships to be a balance and rounded individual. No sensible person ever said every minute of the day should be spent with the one you love.
As it relates to #6 most talking about independent women are just guys who want to do nothing for their woman you independent loose your job and see how many of those men give you a helping hand until you get back on your feet. They are just using independent as an excuse because sometimes that same man screaming independent women has a side chick he’s giving half his pay. Independence is not a bad thing it just should not be for some men to shy away from responsibilities
My wife and I have been married since 1994, in the same christian faith that is, and, while we have been through lots of challenges on our journey, we have manage to establish a few policies based on the values we cherish. 1. We have our social friends but also moral boundaries of being friendly with them. 2. We have nothing to hide on on our phones or emails, though we are individually enjoying our privacy. She answers my calls and checks my emails whenever it is necessary and visa versa. 3. We call and check up on each other. 4. We are committed and accountable to each other in our finances, so I don’t have to hide my wallet in the garden. 5. We keep the Fun Only between us. While physiques play part of our attraction to each other, our success of growing so far, is mainly a result of daily discipline midst those daring and attractive tempters and a character transformed by God’s word. Please note that we are still far from being the PERFECT couple. Its very difficult to sustain a genuine, balanced and safe relationship when there is a disregard on both sides for respect, morality and a failure to persevere for the goal to love as is found in 1 Corinthians 13: 4-8.
Jamaican men are great if your not looking for commitment ,but if you do want commitment you will be hard pushed to find a decent one with morals respect decency loyalty .They are masters at talking the talk with their pleasant ego-boosting flirty conversations its not difficult not to be flattered. Why cant they keep their zipp up their no rock stars being chased by every groupie in town But without womans participation they couldn’t behave like this ,they can do this because woman let them get away with it .
It still sounds like men should be treated like children….it still spells sarcasm …some of you women don’t want MEN you want BOYS…
these niggas need to stay single. Good men are out there and they want to play games. These are boys , I only deal with mature men.
some of it is true but i think men should go out more with their woman .I personally experience men going out with his friend rather than his woman.Very rare a man goes with his woman alot they mostly go out with their friends even if a woman isn’t a jealous type sometimes she will feel neglected.
Which lowlife wrote this? I’m a man and, with a few exceptions, this is the biggest load of bull crap that I have ever seen written anywhere. I have never preferred being with males than with my special lady. What a misrepresentation of Jamaican men. Something is seriously wrong with men who want to live like this. Speak for yourselves!
Lol…….. Cho backside dem Jamaican man ya no easy at all…….May God go wit unu and a whole host a angels caa unu need SALVATION!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Jesus inna unu so unu can c where unu go wrong… An memba condoms still exist cas some a unu no deserve fi get pickney And ladies tek it from me if unu continue fi gwaan like eediat a so d man dem ago treat unu….. As fi #6 A husban material wi sey to…. Man wit personality ambition and respect…… Nuh pretty face nuh have time fi waste
Well all I can say is that, thank god this is only the view of 5 men, and does not reflect Jaimacan Men in general…..
KMT this is a load of crap and so immature the title should state what Jamaican Boys wish Jamaican girls knew!
Two words.GROW UP
I have to laugh at some of these comments its his all good that women have evolve in a new era where they can accept the laws of men above the laws of God most women have lost their value by the way they think in this modern times doing anything and every thing to prove self worth, but what is the value of a woman who have tried many men to find that one who she thinks will not follow his god given instinct as a man just like all the other species that have been created, not knowing that a woman’s body is the only thing that emanate the essence of God because she creates life therefore her body is sacred yet they defile the divine laws by been with many men while the first man that took their maiden is their husband in the sight of god, no wonder why we have so many break up and divorce while men will always be doing the same thing they left the other one for maybe not a cheater but a abuser, gambler or maybe a closet sissy choose one because that’s the reality or stay single as one com mentors says but is this the will of God why they was created, thank God for olden days women because they have earn their place as women while these with their new laws are creating ciaos and nothing have change but killings and lawlessness, most of the 10 is right for the confident women who have nothing to fear…I wonder why nature is producing more female to male.
A bag of bull shit……………and it is not just Jamaican men its “MEN”.It takes a real man not to think like this,or maybe I should say suppress this ideology. 4,5,6,8 and nine is ok. everything else is gay shit(using a word men don’t want to be associate with…LOL).however I wish all men would just come straight out and say this shit from the beginning,lets see how many of them get any decent woman other than sluts and home wrecker type.Maybe women should start feeling the same way, then you will hear some of them bawl like a bitch about it.Remember do unto others as you’d have them do to you.
I think sometimes men has a warp sense of being. These are not men, they are punks. The sad thing is every culture, ethnic group and even religions have allowed men to be this way, as we believe that this is how it must be (King Solomon crap in this day and age). See how these same punks are if the tables turn. Seriously!!!! I should not worry while you are out there contracting all manner of STIs to come and pass on to me?!! Life will just get worse if we don’t take a stand against immorality of this sort. God help us!!!
?Realy2 condone inffidelity and possible exposing one self to some communicable disease if he used no protection among other things(4) do not get pregnant well in this day and age both parties should be in agreement before making such a decision, or at least make sure you can support a child on your own.(10)I say you sound as if you want your cake and eat it if in a committed relationship priorities change yes you must each have time with friends but if the reason is for more that hanging out stay single you are not husband material and say you prefer being single,Far too many females put up with nonsense for the sake of being married or having a man.
As to do with the independent part i strongly agree that it is good to be an independent woman but most of the time when a male stresses independence is that these men are mean just want you to be with them and spend money on them and your self.Am talking from experience as you loose your job when they stress you out and nag you to just quit because of their insecurities they started to differ from you and then they say they want independent woman.SMH a the piggy bank bruk dun dat why dem a gwaan suh and dem nuh want throw nuh draw hence ends the relationship and find a richer girl.TOO many bruk pocket man seh independence tru dem nuh wah give nuttin.Anyways that,s my view.
All they are talking about is not to embarrass them they want to feel like a real man,what happen to when they flirt and makes us look stupid and turning a blind eye that’s crazy it not always about them and go a trip while we stay home bull shit!!!!relationships is about working together ,not for one person.
Hog wash! I have come to learn that there are so many down low Jamaican men (in Jamaica) who have girlfriends baby mama’s and wives, so no they do not want you going through their phones and reading their messages.
I can understand numbers: 4, 5, 6, 8 & 9 the others HECK NO!
I bet these guys were in their late teens or early twenties. Some Jamaican men around this age tend to have some expectations that are very selfish. The problem i have with some Jamaican men is that they expect you to be a partner in bringing in the money but most of them still are not partners when it comes to domesticated chores around the house.
What about women needs. I don’t really like the part that he cheats and I actually found out and I should not ask him about it. If I can’t talk to him about that then why staying in that relationship? He has to leave I am sorry.
Well there’s is many truths to these opinions of Jamaican men. I HAVE experienced some of their selfish, demanding and irresponsible behavior. The
types of men are very disgusting and out of order. OverAll it’s best to run like he’ll when u see them coming.
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What a bigoted wish list Dream on This is not what relationships are about Apparently they want to have their cake and eat it I do wonder how Jamaican women would cope with this kind of behaviour Where these guys in serious relationships at all ?
I suggest ladies you look outside your country like NZ or Australia men are different they involve their woman as their better half they show respect
All these men do is justify their awful behavior…better to b single less stress
This is written by a Jamaican Woman. This is the crap we have to deal with! And look how quick you made a church with your messed up views. Smh.
This RIDICULOUS and no wonder most are either single or with women as flippant and unfaithful as they are.
My fiancée would give me a stern look just for reading this.
The only thing I would like to know is what age group do these men/boys fall into.
Obviously the thoughts of 5 men that only party and have the same lifestyle! #yrekcuf
I just got dumber by reading this garbage
I want to see the female version of this 🙂
I think Jamaican men are screwed
this sound like a bunch of kids
just don’t really agree with the #2
Cheap satire.
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SO TRUE!
The sarcasm is uncanny, but there are truths to a lot of your statements, although most are gross exaggeration and may reflect the opinions of very few men or a male talking through his EGO. Males would rather be free to be happy doing as they please, but most responsible men would never abandon his responsibility, once he can stand up to it. Never forget the role a woman plays in a man’s leaving! ‘Two sides to every story’ . Sorry but like many other men I have grown sick of females laying out qualities for the man she wants without considering what it is she has to offer, sorry sex is just not enough, as special as you are there are another 4 billion or so females in the world with a vagina.
Don’t blame men ladies, blame your bad choice in men. With all the bad experience a woman has with a particular man, you will find many other women had that same bad experience with that same man. 80 /20 rule!
I think most Jamaican men are like this!!!
Crystal Evans I know you add some stuff to this article to make them come across the way we think of them. I always believe that men behave as if we are toys and ediots, & if you can honestly say you Did Not pad this article, & these words came from their lips then I guess I will forever be single. I need a partnership, good convetsations, plans, growth, love and respect as that’s all I have to offer to the one I chose to love.
Sadly these things are all true based on my observance and it is SAD, But what makes it even more disheartening is that some of these traits are shared by men of other nationalities and cultures too. smh
To me this seems like a joke…kmt @ 6 (Dont trap a man by getting pregnant) He wanted that baby. Kmt. 1 hand cant clap dat means a woman stand alone cant get pregnant. If he is a man it would have been planned properly or some discussion made.
All i can say is, 2 can play that game and women play it better. Anything u share give me, i can assure u that u will get it back.
I dont agree with most of this bullshit..Wives are not toys and should be treated as priority with utmost respect.Obviously, you dont know much about true love…
Did the writer say “men”??? I’ll give her the benefit of the doubt, and posit that she meant to write “irresponsible boys” instead. On the other hand, why on earth would a ANYONE want to search another person’s phone??? That is without a doubt invasion of privacy!!
That was simply a lot of BULL…I can’t believe some men still think like that……. no wonder the women cheat with other men…..”ladies link mi…cause mi nuh tink dem wey deh”
What’s good for the goose is good for the gander. Flip the coin. How does it feel? Distasteful I suppose.
I don’t want any Jamaican man, they sleep with anything!
This is why Im not dating Jamaican men.. I love them but this bullshit im not taking especially #2
Sounds damn stupid and hypocritical.
Biggest load of rubbish I have read all year.
i dont agree
with #2 at all
is this article for real??
I can understand all except 2.
A load of crap
A lot of this i’d say is bullshit but some of it is very true. There are a few i wish these females knew.
Definitely all The reasons why I switched. There is nothing to fight for. Your Life is one Big Sine and Cosine, no TLC, No Respect, No Family Life, Only Pretense, Not too Desperate for That. I CAN DO BAD ALL BY MYSELF.
Sounds like something a “man” would say indeed. Sure enough they remain delusional to think any sensible woman would concede to all of these ridiculous “reasonable demands.”
Total load of crap. Seems she Nuh like men at all
True Having a Relationship with Them Is a Life full of Hell and that is why so many Children Suffer.
She is speaking on the behalf of the idiots who believe they have a point to prove. Wonder why we have so much unwanted children in Jamaica? Men like these, sadly to say she is speaking the truth; I heard of such argument from I was a child. That is why is chose wisely, my husband is Jamaican and we have been together for 20 years and married for 13 years. He is very responsible and love his family. Men like these give other men bad name, these are the ignorant and irresponsible ones.
Therefore, they do not represents all Jamaican man
Number two is DEFINITELY OUT. I can only speak for myself, but under no circumstances I would turn a blind eye to a man”s infidelities. That one would never work with me.
women by nature are more self centred than men.woman marries for the sake of security where as man marries for the sake of woman . man’s vagabond behaviour is very natural to him.demand of high price[marriage] is in favour of woman all this high talking by woman is due to immature thinking.as though woman is pious and more faithful than man. after all, man most times is flirting with another woman and not by nature a bestial… man by nature needs more than one woman. all this high talk of marriage, trust, being faithful etc is artificially[via marriage] tying up the man into a very demanding situation. i am 72 years old man and never came across an honest to -wife husband -[among my friends] if there is any, he must be lying or good for nothing in life and must be a thorough failure. however society can go forward only by treating our women with respect and love love is unlimited–we love our wives children parents love can’t be limited to just one woman.
Bullshit! !! What is written here could not have come from men in the 21st century. Firstly they sound like spoiled brats, what they have spewed has little logic or substance. Lastly it smacks of selfishness the one thing that’s never good for a relationship.
So true
Can you please tell me why Jamaican men will western union hundreds of dollars on a regular basis to a woman to complain to have kids from him but don’t get a DNA testing as fast he sends the money for a kid that she claims belongs to him .by the time the child is thirty or fourty then that’s when they find out the kid isn’t theirs
Raised upper middle class America by a single father gave me an interestering perspective on men. I found the article entertaining and humourous. Would anyone give guys like this two seconds of your time? Any relationship worth having requires respect. Best feeling in life is knowing with or without a man that you are happy. If they can’t commit heart and soul, let them go!
I like your story About Jamaican men i agree with everything you said describe my husband I was amazed by ever thing
Who wrote this crap this is not true for all jamaican man. Jamaican women are strong and have too much sense ttout up with this bull.
If you payed me 1000000 us dollars I will never date another Jamaican man! Biggest mistake of my life!
Yes this is all soo true!
Completely narcissistic ?
I think this is a load of BULLSHIT and the men that said this nonsense need a lot of growing up to do! Unfaithful bastards. Be single and die alone if you can’t do whatever it takes to make ya woman happy. If a man was doing all that he supposed to do, he would be getting treated like a KING and not worry bout what his lady might do or ask him. Period. There would be nothing to talk bout if you were being a fucking MAN to begin with. Not a dog! I love my Jamaican men but it is clear they weren’t raised right. Maybe a small percentage but the majority of these men were not taught the right things in life other than being a gallis and a wasteman. Meanwhile from we good good Jamaican woman learn to walk and talk, all we hear growing up from our female elders is how to treat man, how to feed and do all the chores we need to do to keep them but they can’t do us a fucking favor and be loyal to us? Fuck that! Loyalty and Respect goes both ways!!!
I enjoyed this article a lot more once I realized who the author was, and that it was written sarcastically. 😂😂