Is This Flushed Face A Sign Of Attraction?
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Question:
A Caucasian man has recently joined my church group that I like the look of, and I fancy getting to know him because I’m single.
Every time we catch each other’s eyes from a distance his face reddens up. I know it’s not a reaction to the Caribbean sunshine, but I’m unsure if he’s angry with me or simply blushing because he’s shy.
We’ve yet to have a conversation, and I don’t want to make him feel uncomfortable by approaching him. How can I find out if he likes me?
Petagay, Trelawny
Love Doctor’s Answer:
As you sound like a caring lady, because you don’t want to make him feel uncomfortable, your ideal way to make the first move is to approach him and introduce yourself.
You can then determine from his initial reaction if this has the potential to become a new romantic adventure. Anger from a distance is rare unless you have done something to seriously upset him.
This man’s blushing may be triggered by the sheer excitement of setting his eyes on you from a distance.
His sudden flushed face could be partially down to being attracted to you, although may be caused by shyness or embarrassment for some reason.
Blushing is a natural physiological reaction when blood rushes to the face, which is frequently linked to heightened self-consciousness.
To work out if his ruddy face is all about attraction, you need to look for the tell-tale signs by attempting to read his body language.
Subtle grooming behaviour, such as brushing fingers through his hair or checking his appearance in anything reflective, will mean that he wants to look his best for you. He will simply be wishing to impress.
Both eye gazing and eye contact that linger for an extra second longer than usual will show his intent of physical attraction. This is a terrific way to flirt. You are definitely causing his head to be turned for the right reason if a smile accompanies this eye locking.
READ HIS FACE
As you move your eyes down his face to gauge whether he is attracted to you, take a glance to see if his nostrils are flared.
This biological reaction generally shows romantic interest. It can also mean that he is subconsciously taking in more pheromones from you as he finds you attractive.
Lips can be an easy way to determine a potential sign of attraction. Parted lips can indicate that he wants to kiss you. Should he lick his lips this is an alluring sign.
When men resort to licking their lips, this is probably down to his nervousness around you as he finds you attractive.
He will be aiming to remove any physical barriers if he’s attracted to you. Watch out for him leaning in, pointing his feet towards you, standing within your personal space and touching you in a minuscule minor are all signals of attraction.
TOUCH MATTERS
No one will touch someone that they don’t find attractive. You should resort to subtly brushing his arm or shoulder if you want to try forcing things along. Should you feel adventurous, take an opportunity to touch his hips.
My advice is for you to be confident but not arrogant around him, by trying to initiate conversation. Someone with confidence is always going to be an attractive trait.
You can subtly let him know that you are interested in him romantically, by flashing a quick smile before you attempt to engage him in talking with you. Standing face-to-face will allow you the chance to read his body language.
If you don’t feel confident enough to roll up to him, a quick tip is to go and stand near this man you like. Only do this with your back to him, and ideally talking to someone else.
GET A HELPING HAND
Find a friend to be your wingwoman, whose role is to initially be the only face this man sees. She can gauge whether you are wasting your time or not, especially if he is showing romantic interest in her.
Gradually move yourself around so that eventually you are in his peripheral vision.
If he seems interested in you then he will keep glancing over in a bid to catch your eye. Should he obviously be wanting to communicate with you, seize the moment by introducing yourself.
You can get the ball rolling by stating something along the lines of: “Your aftershave smells fabulous on you, what is it?” or “That watch looks terrific on you, what’s the brand as I’m intrigued?” Always include the words “on you”, otherwise you are referring to an inanimate object and nothing to do with him.
GET HIS NUMBER
Another way to grab his romantic interest is by chatting about the church group while asking for his number. You should fire off a flirtatious message, and gauge from his response where you stand before pushing for a date.
If you achieve positive vibes from your flirty message you can always give him a call, and give him two options for thinly disguised dates for him to pick from.
When you are spending time together and there’s obviously some mutual interest, then hopefully he will be brave enough to ask you out for a full-blown date. If nothing transpires then you will need to prompt him to meet up romantically, because you don’t want to be stuck in the friend zone.
Once he starts getting used to spending time with you, his flushed face should be a thing of the past because he will feel comfortable in your presence and valued as your love interest.
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