The Need For A Home
It is my desire to have my own home.
However, it is something hardly possible when you are 27 years old, still yet to reach the height of your career and your salary unable to carry a mortgage.
At this moment you feel that if you had a man in your life, then buying that home would be possible if he shared this similar dream.
The bible says, two are better than one and I truly agree in this regard but is it safe all the time to centre my dreams and goals around my future partner.
I’ve fell into depression many a times for not being able to live out the dream of owning my own home. I’ve been to the bank and when they did their assessment, all that was told to me is, YOU ARE NOT QUALIFIED!
I was sharing with a colleague how I felt and after our conversation, I learnt three things. Not that I did not know them all but they now made an indelible mark in my mind.
1. My focus right now should be preparing myself to be a good wife, mother and independent woman before even thinking of joining myself to a man who I intend to build a life with. What if after marrying him- he dies two years later, loses his job or just decides to be dysfunctional. Will I be able to handle the mortgage, will I be able to keep it together amongst other things because as a wife, I cant just throw my hands in the air, I have to keep it together.
2. I need to use this moment of my life to reach the height of my career so that if I do not get married or my husband does not arrive until the age of 50 (God forbid) , I will be able to afford a house on my own as it would be ridiculous to wait until then to purchase a home.
The bible says, two are better than one and I truly agree in this regard but is it safe all the time to centre my dreams and goals around my future partner.
I’ve fell into depression many a times for not being able to live out the dream of owning my own home. I’ve been to the bank and when they did their assessment, all that was told to me is, YOU ARE NOT QUALIFIED!
I was sharing with a colleague how I felt and after our conversation, I learnt three things. Not that I did not know them all but they now made an indelible mark in my mind.1. My focus right now should be preparing myself to be a good wife, mother and independent woman before even thinking of joining myself to a man who I intend to build a life with. What if after marrying him- he dies two years later, loses his job or just decides to be dysfunctional. Will I be able to handle the mortgage, will I be able to keep it together amongst other things because as a wife, I cant just throw my hands in the air, I have to keep it together.
2. I need to use this moment of my life to reach the height of my career so that if I do not get married or my husband does not arrive until the age of 50 (God forbid) , I will be able to afford a house on my own as it would be ridiculous to wait until then to purchase a home.
3. The things I need may never happen or may not happen the way I planned. What if God wants me to get a home free of cost?”
So, I am looking at things differently now and realizing that things take time and my priority right now should be, being the best that I can be.
Owning my own home, it will happen just in time and if it does not, it is not the end of the world.
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