How Do I Stop The Rot Of Frustration?
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Question:
I’m in my 30s and yet to achieve an orgasm through a relationship. Maybe I am being too demanding, but I want a real man to meet my expectations.
I’ve given every boyfriend the heave-ho after only one night of passion, and I’ve yet to find a fulfilling relationship.
What’s your advice for finding a suitable man who can please me?
B, Kingston
Love Doctor’s Answer:
Sexual frustration is something that is a frequent problem between couples. Yet you are not giving any boyfriend much of a chance by breaking up after only one set of bedroom antics.
Building up a meaningful romantic relationship, and then bonding through intimacy, is what helps to maintain the thrill of being a couple.
Maybe you are being too demanding with your sexual appetite. Or perhaps the type of men you have been involved with are just selfish and prefer sex to lovemaking.
I strongly suggest that you explore the use of sex toys to start discovering your G-spot, which ultimately will help guide your suitor when you revert to the bedroom. Self discovery can be a wonderful way forward for a lady.
Many men only wish to jump into bed without truly caring for the women that they are with. To avoid this you should gradually build up a romantic relationship, moving on from loving each other affectionately so that there is romantic appeal before you get physical.
The thrill of the chase helps any loving relationship. You are best to wait until you are definitely ready for bedroom antics, rather than rush things or being pressurised into becoming intimate.
SEEK MUTUAL RESPECT
As many men only have one-track minds, you should start to avoid anyone who is not showing you total respect. Steer clear of those who make sexual references and/or touch you up when you start dating.
If you happen to find a man that you are attracted to and have been seeing each for a few months, then subtly try to find out whether he is equipped for intimate moments to avoid any disappointment.
Once in the bedroom you should ensure that there’s plenty of foreplay to get him in the mood. Should he suffer from premature ejaculation, which sounds like the case for you, then you can at least introduce sex toys into your passionate play.
Any man who doesn’t wish to invest time and energy into helping you reach an orgasm with sex toys, if he is underperforming, is not worth your time.
You are maybe too hot to handle for these men that you have dated, perhaps they were a little younger than you are or simply inexperienced. It is always worth considering a man aged 40+ for your next potential relationship.
APHRODISIAC MAGIC
As Jamaican supermarkets boast a plethora of aphrodisiacs, such as black maca, you should consider finding something to help turn up the heat for bedroom antics as well as buying a kama sutra book for different sexual positions.
The aroma of citrus, especially lemons, helps to relax blood vessels and gets sexual senses in full flow. I recommend wearing a citrus scent, if you don’t have any then it is a great investment. It is also advisable to introduce citrus candles into the bedroom.
The secret is to satisfy your sexual needs with the right man. Although you should give your next boyfriend a second bite at the cherry if he is unable to fulfil you the first time you get physical.
Should there remain the same dilemma, then open up the channels of communication with him to find out why he failed to fulfil your sexual needs. Comprising is what helps to turn a romance into a meaningful relationship, because you are then showing mutual respect and trust.
TEST YOUR PARTNER
Being so dismissive towards men you are involved with, without giving them much of a chance to rectify the problem, is a bit harsh. I urge you to stringently pick your future partner, and not rush into the bedroom until at least eight weeks of dating.
This will keep him on his toes. If he starts eyeing up other women, or loses interest, then he will be no great loss to you.
A quick tip is to send a message to your boyfriend when things are going smoothly. Be direct by asking if he would prefer to receive a photo of you stark naked or in your swimwear.
If doesn’t choose a swimwear image then you know that he’s no good for you as sexual relations are his priority, so you can get rid of him.
The joy of receiving gifts, like birthdays and Christmas, is heightened by unwrapping these thoughtful presents. The same applies to sexual relationships, so ensure that you don’t strip naked too quickly. I urge you to invest in some sexy underwear, to gradually reveal your flesh when you decide it is time to get intimate.
BEDROOM FUN TIP
One tip that is virtually guaranteed to give you an orgasm, and most likely a double orgasm, is to tuck a small silk handkerchief up your bottom when you get physical in the bedroom.
Instruct your partner that you will alert him when to pull this out, because when it is released on the verge of you having an orgasm it simply speeds things up into giving you sexual satisfaction.
To succeed on a long-term basis you need to ensure that your next boyfriend is suitable for you, by being considerate to you both inside and outside of the bedroom and certainly with the focus not all about his sexual desires.
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