How Can I Thin Down For A Date With My Ex?
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Question:
I’ve just received an unexpected message from my former boyfriend about meeting up this month.
When he dumped me last year I turned to food to comfort me and deal with the heartache. I’ve piled on the pounds, and want to quickly lose weight to impress him because maybe we can start dating again.
Since I received the message I’ve given up alcohol and fried foods. Any advice on how to present myself as slimmer for this meeting without going on a full throttle diet?
M, Portmore
Love Doctor’s Answer:
Giving up fried foods and alcohol is a great start, but you need to also cut out processed foods and sugar.
Without trying out a new-fangled diet, you are best to stick to foods that naturally will control your hunger and promote fat burning. You should stick to dark green leafy vegetables, like broccoli and cauliflower, plus concentrate on eating lean proteins such as chicken breast, tofu and turkey.
My best tip to swiftly lose weight is to drink a glass of sparkling water before each meal. This is a cheap and rapid method that tricks your stomach into believing you are full up.
Men are visual creatures, so even if you turn up more svelte to meet your ex-boyfriend then you still have to appear visually attractive to him in order for the sparks to fly.
He was the one who ended your romantic relationship, so he may simply be seeking closure rather than trying to rekindle things. Try to find out why he has suddenly made contact.
MOTIVE MATTERS
You need to subtly establish what his motives are, so that you are not reading too much into his message and potentially become disappointed from your expectations of returning into his arms.
Don’t overlook the fact that some of the previous mutual trust was broken by his dismissiveness towards you last year, when he ended things.
You will have both evolved since being a couple, emotionally, mentally and visually. This may be for the best, but you cannot simply expect to press the reset button when you have a rendezvous.
Be prepared for your meeting, by not allowing any possible surprises from him to throw you off guard. Do some social media research on what he has been up to since you broke up.
SIMPLY THE BEST
Visually you need to present the best version of yourself for this meeting, without looking as though you have tried too hard otherwise you’ll reek of desperation.
Dress appropriately for not only the occasion but the venue. I suggest you look in a full-length mirror so you can tweak what you think would improve your look. Best not to wear any clothing that you used to wear when you dated your former boyfriend for your catch-up.
If you are sitting opposite each other for this rendezvous, he will primarily be seeing you from the waist upwards. If that’s going to be the case, I urge you to turn up dead on time to see him, he may think you are a no-show so when you arrive he’ll be relieved.
OOZE SELF-CONFIDENCE
This scenario also offers an opportunity to show him your footwear, legs and walk. Try to arrive in style with an air of self-confidence, which will prove attractive to him.
Your appearance will be to show him what he has missed out on since he dumped you, offer you the feelgood factor and could leverage you becoming a couple again. You could also end up receiving some compliments from him.
If you are happy with what he says during the meeting, then be bold enough to tell him that you would like to give your romance a second whirl, and don’t worry too much about your weight.
HEALTHY APPROACH
Your main goal for looking trimmer is to appear attractive-looking for him. The sparkling water trick usually works rapidly, and is a healthy approach because you are just going to be eating less far naturally.
Yet he may not be worthy of your attention and time. You will soon find out what his intentions are when you meet, so hold back before you get emotionally invested again.
If you both wish to move forward as a couple you’ll need to re-establish mutual trust, respect and commitment. Your rendezvous offers you the opportunity to see if your aspirations, goals and values are aligned.
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